I used to watch the news before I went to bed or early in the morning before I leave out. I would hear reports on women and children being murdered by their husband or love ones. I used to sit and wonder, "what could make a person commit such actions?" or "what if that happened to me or someone in my family?" Convincing myself that the possibilities were too low. The truth of the matter is it could happen to anybody. No family is ever too perfect, everyone has their "dirty little secrets."
My uncle usually called me every other day, but at that time I was blowing off his phone calls, thinking that the only thing he wanted was to constantly push me into getting my CDL. Which I wasn't sure if I wanted to do or not since it wasn't apart of my previous study in health care. A couple of weeks went by, still not answering the phone, I look at the caller ID and see that it was my cousin Rochelle calling. I had answered the phone before it went to the voicemail. I had received the disturbing news...
"Why didn't I answer the phone?" I had said before hanging up in total shock. "If only I had answered the phone," I kept repeating to myself, rocking while setting up in the bed clinching the phone. I want to see him I said, but I couldn't, I had to wait until his court date. Saying "Why did he do it?" to "What if I could have talked him out of it?"
Calling around for more and more information, I had discovered that my uncle on April 11th, 2009, murdered his children's mother and tried to conceal the murder by lining the trunk with plastic and traveling to Tennessee to dispose of the body. I guess his conscious was eating him up inside, because he turned himself in two days later.
I haven't been able to go see him yet maybe next month in February, his birth month. Maybe I might find out the truth to what really happened. I have provided a link below for those of you who want to find out more information, you can also view blogs/comments, as well as pay respects to the mother of his children by leaving comments in the text box at the end of the page.
Link: http://www.chicagobreakingnews.com/2009/04/1m-bail-for-man-accused-of-killing-girlfriend.html
Sorry for that tragic event in your life. I also experienced a (what if) period in my life.
ReplyDeleteFifteen years ago a very good friend of mine was being pressured by a notorious gang to commit violent acts. Professor, as I called him (because he was very bright)tried calling me on many diffrent occasions. I ignored him becuase I thougt he wanted to borrow money, until I recieved a horrific phone call from my cousin that professor was shot to death in a gang plagued corner of chicago.
For months I grieved his death blaming myself and being tormented by the thougth of what could've happened if I had only answerd his calls. Maybe, I could've changed the course of his life.
In time my wounds were healed and I came to the realization that I was not responsible for the actions and events in his life and I forgave myself.
Im sorry about your loss. It's hard to believe something like this can happen to anyone. We think we know someone well until something like this happens and turns our life upside down. You can never trust someone a 100 %. People for whatever reason are driven to do some insane things sometimes. I remember my grandma was dating someone for a very long time. I considered him my grandpa since i was little. He was always nice and sweet until one day my aunt found him cheating on my grandma in their bed with a woman half his age. He got scared and tried to stab my aunt. I would never have imagined he was capable of such thing.
ReplyDeleteI am too sorry to hear about your uncle. We all have family members that call and we don't answer the phone so don't beat yourself up because it's not your fault he is grown he was going to do what he wanted to do anyways and when it come to domestic violence it's getting worst every year. I remember this dude I was cool with when I was attending WIU he went home on break and found his sister fighting with her baby's father. After he entered the altercation to break it up the baby daddy thought she called him so they could jump him so he ran. But when the baby's dad came back to pick up his kid later that weekend he walked in and shot the baby's mom and her brother (my boy from WIU).I guess the point I am trying to make is there is no wrong or right way to handle domestic and when you see your uncle tell him you love because everybody is asking why & what he did it?
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